July 8, 2014

How to Decide...A Full-Time Mum at Home?

Hi all, I'm back. Yeah, it's not an easy task to be a full time housewife. I admit that, but by God's grace it is possible. I thank God for His leading and provision throughout this journey. From my experience, a supportive husband is very important here.. He plays a huge role in the success of a 'stay-at-home' mum :) So, husbands please read this too.

First of all, to make a decision for a wife to stay at home and taking care of the children is a mutual decision, meant that both husband & wife are agreed to it. Ok? If one of you is not ok, then you know that this is not the path. But, some couples won't mind to try it out. It can be done, try and then maybe after a few months e.g. 3-6 months? If the wife finds it hard, difficult...then you can reverse it & get back to work. No harm trying anyway.

Some failed maybe because the wife has a very established career, or maybe can't get used to the new lifestyle, less friends to talk to & facing the grumpy baby at home alone can be frustrating! Or maybe another factor is the income. And to ease the financial needs in the family. So, these are the few factors that will lead to your decision.

On the other hand, I will talk about what the benefits of being a full time housewife. As you all know, a mother plays a very important role in bringing up a child. Not only their physical being, but also their emotions, characters, values of life & teaching them things that they are not taught in schools/day care. And time flies without you realising it, they grow up fast. Some of the precious moments in life with them will just gone if you were not with them..for example when your baby took his/her first step. Were you the first one who hold him/her when he/she fell from his/her first walk?

So, to be 'a stay-at-home mother' is a decision that you worth to ponder upon.....

Oh ya, talking about a husband's role...Yeah, husband is the head of the family. So as the head, a husband needs to play a vital task & role. But it is not an impossible task. First, a husband should spend more time with the family, and knows the family's needs, especially spending time to communicate with the wife. Show that you care and love your wife..affection YES! Maybe after a tiring day taking care of her baby, she just need to sit down with you to enjoy a cup of her favorite drink. So, husband make a drink for her and chat with her, or if the baby is waking up in the middle if the night, please offer your help to change the diapers & rocking the baby to sleep again, so that your wife can rest well at night. Always remember that the family belongs to both of you, together we love, build & care for the family. Family first!!!

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